Communication, Growth and Tantra
By Lalita Joy
Communication is part of the web of our interconnectedness and relationship with each other through relating and expressing. It is important to convey your truth, with respect to someone else’s. Many problems in the world today stem from a lack of understanding of each other. Communication differs from person to person based on their individuality and experiences. My personal study of tantra has invoked inner growth and inspired my authentic voice in which I present to the outer world. Here I will describe how I learned what works best for me on my journey through the practice of tantra.
I value my heart and mind connection. These areas work symbiotically, meeting in the middle where the conjunction materializes through voice and hearing. If I find difficulty establishing this, I reevaluate my intentions towards interacting with others until there is clarity. I apply this for all conversations and meetings; business, personal, virtual media, and even difficult and sensitive subject matter. Our heart energy is very powerful and healing; in this sense, it has the capacity to change a situation from negative to positive. The mind helps shape ideas inspired by that energy.
I continuously make a concentrated effort to reinforce this pattern and to my surprise, my biggest guide was surprise – my own inner voice. Most of my life I was really hard on myself. I was very strict with expectations and shamed myself when I did not meet them. One day while in meditation I could not relax out of fear that I was doing it wrong. I was ridden with anxiety. When I finally calmed down and relaxed my mind I had a revelation; I needed to have compassion for my personal processes. This was pivotal in my journey. I try to recognize the tone of my self-talk and I continue to flesh out the unpleasantness every day. Most importantly I learned how I wanted to receive compassionate energy from myself. Through this understanding, I revised the way I flowed energy to other people and the way I presented my truth to the outer world. My goal is to not only give my truth but to do so with patience and compassion.
Here is an exercise that I use to help support and facilitate this connection by using tantric breath and intention.
1.) Find a quiet space in solitude and place one hand over your heart.
2.) Close your eyes.
3.) Breathe in through the nose, drawing into the place that your hand is resting on over the heart. Draw the breath up the center of your body to the very top of your head. Breath in fully. Once you reach the top visualize bright white light, exhale and let your entire body feel relaxed.
4.) Repeat this process several times and remember to visualize the heart and mind connecting.
As we know, communication is a very personal thing. Continuous inner work and self-adjustment can lead to an easier flow of connections and problem-solving based on your authentic truth. I acknowledge that I do not mention the “listening” component in this blog. It IS equally as important than speaking and sharing. I will save that topic for another entry where I can fully focus on that, as I have done here.